Why do relationships break at Christmas?

New Year is generally the most stressful time for couples. That is when infant and fragile relationships break up under the additional strain of the Christmas festivities.

What are some of the key issues that cause relationship problems at Christmas and sometimes eventually lead to break-ups?

Christmas is supposed to be a time of happiness for families, lovers and friends so why then is Christmas also the season for relationship breakdown? Varying expectations of what makes the perfect Christmas, too much alcohol, who’s controlling the TV remote, quality of presents, who’s family we should we spend Christmas at, overspending are all potential areas for argument. Partners and relatives are disappointed and dissatisfied, loyalties are torn, tensions are high and the outcome is often conflict.

There is always that underlying pressure to create and have the perfect Christmas with family and relatives. But the reality of the matter is more of indiscretions at office parties, overspending, juggling time with family, parents and in-laws - and sometimes we may perceive our partner as not pulling their weight in the quest for the elusive picture perfect festivities. This is a recipe for disaster and can easily expose underlying cracks in a relationship.

If you spot any early signs of potential problems or any red flags at all do not ignore them. Confront and resolve them immediately if you want to have a happy Christmas and more importantly if you want to still be in a relationship after the Christmas holidays are over.